Focus Is a Learnable State

My body is here, but I am somewhere else. Distracted, lost in tomorrow and yesterday.

My body is here, but I am somewhere else. Distracted, lost in my head.

‘Away with the fairies’, they used to say (yeah, I was - and what). As a child I knew there was more. I know you know.

I just knew my imagination was not ‘just my imagination’ and I knew I was more than my body, that there were absolutely unseen realms and dimensions - and I exercised it and entered into these realms daily. The truth is, I had to.

Therapists called it disassociation. I travelled out of my body regularly. I exercised that out of terror and the need to escape my body.

As it came to light in terms of post-traumatic growth - it’s an exceptional extra sensory skill to have. These are skills we all have, for many of us they lie dormant, under used or left on the ‘woo woo’ shelf, often dismissed. I’ve been thankful for the rise in popularity of neuroscience and quantum science as a level of verification that these energetic fields exist and these are skills that we can all learn.

I now call it an inherited gift. To use everything that I had been through as a strength, and to share how possible it is to use these adversities and distractions from childhood as fuel to drive me forward. With what actually matters in my life.

It’s not an easy road and we can’t do it on our own.

Self enquiry is a daily practice - there is no magic pill or single path.

In therapy there are many phrases used for this essential self enquiry - shadow work, inner child healing, identifying limiting beliefs and behaviour patterns. Through understanding this from a logical perspective - I have been able to take ownership and regulate the ‘freeze’ or ‘fawn’ reactivity that these old beliefs of threat and danger would send me into, seemingly uncontrollably. I learned that I can choose when to call on my unseen allies and strengths and this has become my omnipresent unshakeable support on a whole new level.

It’s this unshakable support that I received from my coaches and therapists that fired me along my dharmic path to coaching. I now travel the worls meeting other pro’s - creative, awake and fired up. Open minded. Big hearts. Just a bit scattered with so many awesome things to do, we try to juggle all the things alone and eventually balls drop. I had people to call on, so now I am also that person for others.

It was also my obsession with yoga, martial arts, philosophy, metaphysics and esotericism which added layers to my understanding of the levels of human consciousness and the subtle bodies.

Throughout my childhood there were lots of secrets, symbols and codes. There was lots of communication that was beyond words, never spoken. It does sound a bit strange now I read it in words.. But it felt natural to me to use the ‘clair’ senses to decipher the world around me and even communicate effectively and safely.

As an adult I’ve created some grounded, embodied order and structure with it that doesn’t seem so strange, so keep a ‘foot in both worlds’. The Known and unknown, seen and unseen. I tied together the threads of conscious and subconscious thought patterns and activity, the root cause of those thoughts and in taking full responsibility for my thoughts creating my emotions - now I can choose how I respond and behave.

We can control when to use the subtle body, and when to be fully present in the ‘real world’.

Am I getting ‘out of it’ or am I getting into it? That’s a conscious choice.

Also many things are true of this mind/body complex - I am now able to be fully present in my body, and I’m also able to project away simultaneously.

I pop into that space to check in on my inner child, and my future self, the visualisation of where I am going. It keeps me in line with my mission and it’s a big very real step in the manifestation process which isn’t the mystery people think it is.

In my quest to master focussing on what I want and where I want to be, I started pushing my physical practices in martial arts and yoga which taught me next level self regulation and discipline. I’d dabbled but never fully committed and now I was making it an intentional daily practice whether I liked it or not, I needed structure. I’m great at flow.

This physical discipline coupled with the daily soul practices, and in depth studying of the levels of human consciousness took me to a new level of awareness and I started to feel brave enough to bring this into conversation, and into my work.

Fuck it, why not. It works.

I knew our thoughts became things. I knew this happened through the spiritual and physical vessel but deeper than this, the astral vessel became less ‘woo’ as I studied the science of the subtle bodies. The 7 levels of consciousness by Dr David Hawkins is just one example of many teachers who affected me at this time, and the Gene Keys, closely associated with the iChing and Human Design, also became a source of inspiration for bridging the gap between matter and energy, how our words are our spells and how we can manipulate that in every day life to create the things we want.

But being absolute and specific about how we want to feel, is the essence of this process.

Also understanding fully that we are multi dimensional beings with multiple interconnected layers - the fascia of the body being a key component of the interconnectedness to our electromagnetic frequency inside and outside the body. This is how we impact the world. Not simply through words (though our words, and how we consciously use them are power), but through our actions, driven by our emotions, preceded by our thoughts.

Mindset is not just in the mind, and the mind is not in the head.

It is a multi layered complex system of the brain which resides in the central nervous system. It is part of a holistic organism and human experience. It’s more than we (over) think. So our gut, heart and head need to align, so we can focus on what actually matters.

These are skills we can learn - from eachother.

This is a slice from my forthcoming book - it’s anecdotes and lessons from 50 years of extraordinary exploration from street kid and corporate drop out to Mindset Coach and world traveller.

It is honest with waves of woo, and entirely true. I am sharing the process as it unfolds, from the writer’s desk.

If She Can, I Can. That is the title, and the truth. If they can, I can, and if I can build this from where I started, you can move forward from where you are.

these are musings I have never shared publicly. This book is a gift to myself for my 50th. And I hope, a gift to others to be inspired to move forward on things that actually matter.

That’s my life’s work, and I’m open to chat about supporting your miraculous journey too. Find me and more resources to support focus at clarebelmont.net

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